What is Spiritual Bypassing? And Is It Dangerous?

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Spirituality can provide a deep sense of contentment, connection and awareness. It’s a lifelong journey of learning, practice and growth. What often gets ignored is the darker side of spirituality. The pain, the exhaustion, and the dangers. As a witch, my practice includes ‘shadow work’. I will write about shadow work in the future, but first I decided to write about spiritual bypassing. This article will explain what spiritual bypassing is, how it can be dangerous, give examples and advice for avoiding it.

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I see spiritual bypassing all the time on the internet, and from the occasional person in real life. Usually the ‘Eat Pray Love’ types: the ones who travelled to East Asia during a gap year to ‘find themselves’, and came back with ‘enlightenment’… not to mention an affinity for cultural appropriation.

If that made you cringe, I’m glad!

Spiritual bypassing is very prevalent among some communities on the internet. It’s important to raise awareness and understanding, and try to prevent others from falling into the trap.

What is spiritual bypassing? Image shows a witch altar, featuring candles, a chest, a sculpture, and leaves.

What is Spiritual Bypassing?

A false sense of positivity, security, and/or enlightenment. Spiritual bypassing is a coping mechanism of escapism. It’s a disservice to real self-growth that isn’t always beautiful or positive. It also invalidates the trauma and emotions of other people.

Spiritual bypassing is a resistance to the darker side of your humanity, an attempt to push it out, ignore it, and embrace ‘the light’.

If you’ve fallen into this, I don’t blame you: it’s alluring, enticing, and often very manipulative. When you’re struggling, those ‘positive vibes only’ communities can beguile you and convince you to avoid your problems.

Spiritual Bypassing Definition. Quote by John Welwood.

The definition of Spiritual Bypassing:

John Welwood, a Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist, coined the term ‘spiritual bypassing’ in 1984.

He defines it as “a tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks”.

Psychologist Ingrid Clayton wrote in Pyschology Today: “Spiritual bypass shields us from the truth, it disconnects us from our feelings, and helps us avoid the big picture. It is more about checking out than checking in—and the difference is so subtle that we usually don’t even know we are doing it.”

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Examples of Spiritual Bypassing

  • Forced optimism, even in the face of tragedy and trauma.
  • Not allowing yourself to feel ‘negative emotions’ like anger or sadness.
  • Extreme idealism.
  • Believing that any problem can be overcome with positive thinking. Telling people to stop being ‘negative’, when discussing things that made them angry or upset.
  • Detachment from reality and/or ignoring the present.
  • Individualism. Especially as a way to avoid talking about poverty, abuse, and racism. These are real issues that need real solutions. ‘The Secret’ is a glaring example of this. “Rather than trying to solve problems in the environment that lead to pain, individualism teaches people that they alone are responsible for their destiny.” Related topics include gaslighting and victim-blaming.
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Spiritual Bypassing Commonly Used Phrases.

Common Spiritual Bypassing Phrases:

  • Good vibes only.
  • Positive mindset only.
  • Love and light.
  • Raise your vibrations.
  • I don’t see colour, all lives matter.
  • You create your reality.
  • Focus on the positive.
  • I don’t have an ego.
  • Thoughts and prayers.
  • This is all part of God’s plan.
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Is Spiritual Bypassing Dangerous?

Psychologists do not consider a spiritual bypass dangerous, when used temporarily to cope with acute stress. The key words here are temporarily and acute stress.

Spiritual bypassing becomes dangerous when used as a long-term coping method, e.g. for unresolved mental health issues.

Fox, Cashwell and Picciotto wrote a detailed paper in 2017 titled “The opiate of the masses: Measuring spiritual bypass and its relationship to spirituality, religion, mindfulness, psychological distress, and personality”, Spirituality in Clinical Practice.

They point out the many negative consequences of spiritual bypassing, including:

  • Shame
  • Anxiety
  • Emotional confusion
  • Exaggerated tolerance of inappropriate behaviour
  • Spiritual narcissism
  • Blind allegiance to charismatic teachers
  • Disregard for personal responsibility
  • Excessively controlling oneself and others

As you can tell from that short list, spiritual bypassing can have severely harmful effects on yourself and others.

Spiritual bypassing perpetuates white supremacy through passing responsibility to the individual. ‘Mindset’ is not going to dismantle systematic racism.

It also enables victim-blaming towards those who have experienced abuse, poverty, mental illness, and disability. It is not my fault that I was abused, nor is it my fault that I have a disability.

How To Understand and Avoid Spiritual Bypassing.

How To Avoid Spiritual Bypassing

Critical thinking. Listen to that voice in the back of your mind, or in your gut, that tells you ‘this isn’t right’, or ‘this doesn’t make sense’. Ask questions, think about things from a variety of perspectives.

Do not take the opinion of one person (or community) as fundamental truths. Seek alternative points of view. Do your own research, and please do not blindly follow a charismatic leader. That is cult-like behaviour.

Remember that just because someone claims to be ‘spiritual’, doesn’t mean they can’t lie to you. In fact, I would completely avoid people who only talk about positivity. It’s not realistic. ‘Love and light’ cannot exist without hate and darkness. It’s a balance.

Likewise, you aren’t always right. Neither am I. No-one is. We must all accept that we are often wrong, and we need to learn from that. Don’t live in denial or cognitive dissonance.

Ground yourself. It can be easy to let yourself get sucked into lofty ideals of eternal joy, and enlightenment. Grounding yourself can help you feel present and connected to the Earth.

The world is not always optimistic, and neither are people. You can, of course, practice gratitude, and look for the positives in situations. What you can’t do is be happy all the time, or never feel any negative emotions. This is toxic positivity. All emotions exist for a reason.

Using spiritual bypassing as a defence mechanism for your struggles will hinder you. It’s an illusion that prevents personal growth, and the ability to process trauma.

I’ve always felt a bit sickened by the people who tout ‘positivity only’ and ‘light work’, but it really hit home for me when I was diagnosed with PTSD. No positive mindset that could get me through that. What I needed was time to grieve, then therapy and medication. I learned how to practice real self-care. I mean, literally looking after myself as a human, not the capitalistic form of self-care (a topic for another blog post). I had to learn what my responsibility is, and how to set healthy boundaries.

Unfortunately, trying to help someone deep into spiritual bypassing is difficult. I’ve tried it myself, and got nowhere. They refused to listen to me. I really do hope they find their way out. As much as you can encourage therapy, I know that it’s not available to everyone. I am incredibly grateful that in the UK, I was able to complete two courses of CBT, without paying for it. The more mental health gets discussed openly, without stigma or shame, the better. We all need support, and improved systems to provide therapy access.

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All the best,

- Emily

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  1. I absolutely LOVE this post Emily! I’ve been delving into a LOT of self growth this year. And I’m familiar with shadow work. I recently listened to a podcast where they were talking about the false positivity and all the “good vibes only” kinda stuff you see on Instagram and how it’s not really doing the work you need to do to get to the core. Negative emotions aren’t bad and they need to be felt sometimes. Self growth is hard and messy and confusing sometimes and that’s how you know it’s working. This was such an informative post, thank you for sharing! I’d love to read more about shadow work from you too x

    1. Thank-you so much Jenny, I’m so glad it resonated with you! Shadow work and experiencing emotions is so important. What podcast did you listen to? Self-growth is definitely hard, messy and confusing at times! I’ll write about shadow work soon, I’ve been very surprised that my witchcraft-related posts have become the most popular posts on my blog. It can be hard to share personal truths and articles like this, especially when ‘positive vibes only’ is so prevalent!

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